At Talentum Mundi™ coaching always begins with the question: “Who do I choose to BE here?”
It is based in a powerful awareness-expanding tool by Alan Seale that helps you begin to make significant shifts in how you approach challenges and situations in life:
| State | Level | Typical Questions | Outcomes | |
| Reactive (Struggle and problem solving) | Drama | – Whose fault is this? – Who do I blame? – Can you believe this happened? | – Reacting – Insensitive to people’s feelings – Feeling bad – Focus and energy lowered dramatically | |
| Reactive (Struggle and problem solving) | Situation | – How can we fix it, and how quickly? | – Seeing more clearly what is happening – Move on and put the situation behind us, usually without learning from what has happened. – Real underlying issues are never addressed | |
| Proactive (Taking the power back whilst creating new circumstances and realities) | Choice | – Who do I choose to be here – What do I choose as my relationship to this situation? | – Choosing who we will be within situations / circumstances – Claiming responsibility and choice in the matter – Focusing on fixing the problem – Open for transformation and sustainable change | |
| Proactive (Taking the power back whilst creating new circumstances and realities) | Opportunity | – What’s the opportunity here – What wants to happen? | – Here the most profound leadership and service occurs – Recognizing what is not working or what wants to change /heal |
Remember:
- the bigger the Drama, the greater the Opportunity
- the deeper you go into the Opportunity, the clearer your Choices become
- to constantly flow back and forth between Choice and Opportunity
- perception of the situation starts to change and you are able to move forward with new levels of insight and clarity